No Pride #8 - When Niceness Replaces Holiness

We live in a time where "being nice" has become an unofficial 11th commandment—if not the commandment that trumps all others. Niceness is seen by many as the ultimate sign of holiness. The more spiritual, the more Christian, the more filled with the Spirit you are—the nicer you must be. And this has become a major loophole that the Pride movement exploits, either to influence churches or render them silent and ineffective.

Whenever a Christian exposes the lies of the Pride movement or raises biblical concerns, someone inevitably pushes back—not with Scripture, but with the accusation that we're "not being nice"—as if that's the ultimate failure. Even some conservative Christians fall into this trap, believing we should do whatever it takes to be liked by society and that the lack of niceness is harming our witness.

Now, of course, Christians should not make it their aim to be rude or harsh—that's just another form of misplaced focus. Our calling is not to be liked or disliked but to be holy, faithful, and loving. Whether we're perceived as nice or abrasive is ultimately irrelevant.

Niceness—being pleasant, polite, and agreeable—is subjective. It changes with the culture. What was once considered kind may now be labelled offensive. If we anchor our conduct in public opinion, we'll drift with every cultural current. But God's Word calls us to stand firm.

So how should Christians live and speak during Pride Month—and the rest of the year? We must be a faithful presence wherever God has placed us. We are to speak the truth of Scripture without shame, be courageous in the face of opposition, and show compassion to those in darkness. We extend love and mercy not because it's deserved but because Christ extended it to us.

This is not an ideological war; it's a spiritual rescue. We're not trying to make people conservative. We're pleading with them to come out of darkness into the kingdom of Christ. And rescues, by nature, aren't always nice.

May God grant us clarity in this confused age and help us be truly faithful to Him.

Nino Marques