Feminism Abolishes Womanhood: How Egalitarianism Weakens Both Men and Women (Series: The Embrace of Exile | Part 6)

In our previous article, I argued that feminism, because it is based on egalitarian ideology rather than elevating womanhood, actually abolishes it. And consequently, it also abolishes true manhood.

What I am not arguing is that feminism successfully erases the differences between men and women. Those differences are rooted in creation, not in some “social construct,” as feminists like to claim. Feminism abolishes womanhood and manhood in a different and more tragic sense: it produces extremely weak men and weak women who are simply not equipped to live out their God-given design.

Let me illustrate this with a simple analogy. Forks and spoons are both cutlery, and a good pair is made of the same material. They are equal in the sense that they are both utensils created for eating. But that equality does not make them the same thing. They have specific design features that make them distinct — not only in appearance, but in purpose and function. There is some overlap, of course; both are eating utensils. Yet they aid eating in different ways and for different kinds of food. To appeal to what is equal (both are cutlery, both made of the same material, both exist for eating) in order to demand they be used interchangeably is foolishness. If you start using forks to eat soup and spoons to stab your meat, the forks and spoons remain what they are, but they become weak and unsuitable versions of themselves. On the other hand, when we accept that they are different, we discover that they are both valuable and that they truly complement each other. We need both, and we need them to do exactly what they were designed and created to do. This is complementarism.

The same is true for men and women. We are equal in some ways: both are human beings, both created in the image of God, and both created with the purpose of glorifying God and enjoying Him forever. But we have also been made distinct. The way we accomplish our common purpose is therefore different. Men and women were created to be different — biologically and functionally — in marriage, in the church, and in society. When we ignore these distinctions, we put men and women into inadequate positions, setting them up for hardship and failure.

I am not even arguing here for the specific roles men and women were created for. Before we can have that conversation, we must first accept the foundational truth that there are fundamental differences between the two. It is nearly impossible to discuss the roles of men and women fruitfully if we begin with egalitarian presuppositions. If we start with the assumption that men and women are fully interchangeable, then any proposed difference will immediately sound arbitrary, unfair, and diminishing.

So, if we are to truly grasp the biblical teaching on womanhood and manhood, we must begin with this firmly established truth: men and women are made different, and this is good — in fact, very good. It is good because they complement each other, they glorify God in complementary ways, and they serve the family, the church, and society in different but necessary ways. We need men who act like men and women who act like women.

In biology, it is not that men should not generate babies — men cannot generate babies. Biological limitations are usually the ones we are forced to accept, despite the wicked modern attempts to mutilate bodies in order to become what we are not. When it comes to roles, we must see reality the same way. It is not that women shouldn’t act like dads — they can’t. It is not that women shouldn’t be pastors in the church — they can’t. When women try to fill the role of men (and vice versa), they are not truly doing it. No matter how hard they try, they become only a weak version of themselves, wasting their energy and time on what they were never created to do. It is exactly like trying to eat soup with a fork. This approach to life produces nothing but frustration, sadness, emptiness, and rage.

What feminism does, then, is weaken men so that both sexes appear equally (in)competent. It is as if the spoons launched a revolution against the forks, making them all limp, twisted, and feeble so they can no longer do what they were meant to do — or forcing them to do what they were never created for, like eating soup. Feminists want men to become limp and feeble versions of themselves and to be pushed into roles they were never designed for. The result is chaos. Now we have weak and frustrated men and women who believe they are living in the glorious freedom of “being whatever they want,” yet life feels miserable. They wonder why — until the misery spreads so far that it begins to feel like normal life.

True freedom is the freedom to live according to your design and full potential. When people are enslaved, they are forced into a lifestyle and labour that prevents them from flourishing as human beings. Real liberation for both women and men is to be allowed — and encouraged — to become exactly who God created them to be. Feminism is not liberation. Feminism is slavery. Feminism is the dehumanization of women. It is not about women’s rights, but about abolishing their right to be what they truly are: women. Feminism hates true, biblical womanhood; it finds it inferior, outdated, and humiliating.

What we need today are women who will boldly declare: “Let me be a woman!” We need women courageous enough to claim their God-given right to be who He created them to be, and to fight for womanhood to be seen once again as good and beautiful. And we need real men — men who will take up their proper role as knights and warriors and rescue our women from the dragon of feminism.

May God bless us and give us strength in this fight.

Nino Marques